What is wrong with us girls?

Singleness can be the greatest thing ever and yet we break our hearts over and over again over the guy who broke it so long ago. Why?

We are created so emotionally. We cling to what makes us feel loved, special, safe, and happy. And unfortunately, sometimes we cling longer than we should.

We have to sift through so many frogs that it seems as though the real prince will never arrive. And then when someone who seems like he might be, we shy away because we're afraid he'll just be another frog.

All the memories of the good times are amplified and the bad ones diminished until we can't remember why it was a bad relationship. We hope with all our might that he will come riding in on a white horse and prove that we were wrong about him. But he won't. Because we weren't wrong about him. We just forget that sometimes.

This isn't a man bash. I've known many upstanding, Christian men who fit the "prince" bill. They just all happen to be with someone else.

The sad part is that it is hard for us princesses to wait for the prince because of the emotional attachments we still have with the frogs. Why isn't there a magic potion that will just make that go away?

My only solution for this kind of heartache is to literally lay it down before Christ, starve the attachment, and replace the memories. As harsh as all that sounds, that's exactly what I had to do. I am very happy to say that I now experience exquisite freedom and redemption! It took time...I'm not saying it won't take time...but it is worth it.

Because after all, we don't want to meet the prince and still be thinking about the frog! How unfair to the prince! We want to be ready for him and have a whole heart to give to him.

Broken heart? It will heal. Just let it. And start dreaming again. Now is the time to dream bigger!

3 comments:

Kathy said...

There are many fish in the sea and many frogs in the pond. You have to put the fishing pole down and leave the frog where he is. It's not up to you to fish and search. After all, if you do, you're too busy to notice the prince who is looking for you.
Continue to bloom & grow and become the splendid treasure you where made to be. Don't worry, one day the prince will look and see the beauty he's been looking for.
A rare beautiful treasure meant just for him!

Naomi said...

Definitely, so true!

Anonymous said...

Don't you have another blog about waiting for princes? This would fit in there pretty well, don't you think?